How do I get what I want in a divorce mediation?

In order to get what you want through the mediation process, you need to develop a strategy in advance. You need to know your priorities, you need to know your spouse’s priorities (at least to the extent that you can make educated guesses), and you need to know when it is time to compromise for the greater good.

What can I expect at a divorce mediation?

In divorce mediation, you and your spouse—or, in some cases, the two of you and your respective lawyers—hire a neutral third party, called a mediator, to meet with you in an effort to discuss and resolve the issues in your divorce. Mediation is confidential, with no public record of what goes on in your sessions.

What should I ask for in a divorce settlement?

Before asking for things in a divorce settlement, it is important to think through these key issues.
  • Marital Home.
  • Life Insurance and Health Insurance Policies.
  • Division of Debt.
  • Private School Tuition and College Tuition.
  • Family Heirlooms and Jewelry.
  • Parenting Time.
  • Retirement Funds.

What questions do mediators ask?

Some of the questions that a mediator ought to ask counsel for the parties during the mediation include the following. What are your/your client’s goals for this mediation? What would help you achieve your goals? What are the obstacles to resolving the dispute?

What should you not say during mediation?

Avoid saying alienating things, and say difficult things in the least alienating way possible. Set ground rules to avoid attacking openings. Remember that avoiding saying unwelcome things, by having the mediator say them, merely transfers the other party’s resentment from counsel to the mediator.

What are the 5 steps of mediation?

Once you have gone through all Five Stages of the mediation, the goal is to achieve a final and durable settlement of the dispute.
  • Stage One: Convening The Mediation.
  • Stage Two: Opening Session.
  • Stage Three: Communication.
  • Stage Four: The Negotiation.
  • Stage Five: Closure.

What are disadvantages of mediation?

If the parties involved in mediation aren’t able to compromise, the process can end in failure. One of the biggest disadvantages of mediation is that it can be very difficult to make sure that the settlement is fair to both parties. In mediation, there is no discovery process like there would be in a normal court case.

What happens if mediation is unsuccessful?

If the mediation fails and you do not reach an agreement or settlement, you can still take the issue to court. Also, anything that is discussed or has occurred in mediation remains confidential and cannot be admissible in discovery.

When should you not use mediation?

If you or your spouse harbor extreme feelings of anger, mediation probably won’t work. If one of you does not want the divorce, mediation doesn’t stand a chance. If you‘re trying mediation but you feel the mediator is siding with your spouse, you should stop the process.

Can you bring evidence to mediation?

Yes, you are able to bring evidence into your mediation. Although the mediator does not make the final decision, it will be helpful to show the mediator any evidence to support your case.